Because some people seem to have some really messed up ideas of what friendship is.
And that's not okay with me.
Merriam Webster: 1 a : one attached to another by affection or esteem
2 a : one that is not hostile
Not someone who makes you feel like crap. Not someone who takes things from you. Not someone who makes your life stressful. Not someone who cannot see your value.
I've touched on this a few times before, but you have the right to choose your friends, the people you spend time with, and the people you share your life with.
Without spending hours searching, these two quotes do a good job of spelling out how I feel.
My friends: answer my messages, take as many dumb pictures with me as I like, listen to my not-so-funny stories, get up at 8 am on Saturdays to have coffee with me, appreciate my honesty, love my husband, cheer me up and steer me straight when I'm struggling, and most importantly choose to spend time with me and have me in their lives.
I was the person in high school who had a LOT of friends, but not that many GOOD friends. I have really tried to turn that around in the past few years and it has done me well. I love my group of girls now and really love spending time with them. They are busy, and I push them a lot to get together, but I hope they appreciate the effort to get everyone in the same place.
As time goes on, babies arrive, people move away, I know that my "inner-circle" will probably get smaller. I also know that the people in that circle will be absolutely precious and valuable to me. I can't wait to continue making memories with my lovely friends.
Please know, ladies, that you mean SO MUCH TO ME. If I am talking to you, know that you are important, have a special place in my heart, and I treasure you!